Recently I was having a conversation with a friend of mine regarding a particular life problem. I was seeking his advice on how to handle or tackle this particular issue. I wanted to know what I should or shouldn't do. Here I was waiting for that feel good response that went along with the pat on the back that says, "Don't worry everything will be ok. You will pull through." To my chagrin he did not say any of those words. He responded by telling me that if I don't get off my butt and be more proactive than I have already been then I would find myself in dire straits.
You can imagine how scared I got because he did paint a scary picture. I started crying on my end of the line, quietly of course so he wouldn't hear me and I began imagining all the worst things that could happen if things didn't start coming together for me. Did I like what my friend said? Well, no. I thought he could have offered some well-placed platitudes and handled me with kid's glove. I have known this friend for a long time and we have a bond, so I knew his advice was coming from a place of love. But he had scared the heck out of me and I was now worried. Immediately after our conversation ended I called one of my girlfriends and lamented to her regarding what my friend had said to me. She gave me the kid's glove treatment and I began feeling better. Whew, she saved the day.
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Now we don't always need to have things said to us in a scary way to shock us into action. Words can be very motivating and even the most subdued words can scare and spur us into action. Life's difficulties can get overwhelming at times so we need to hear words that will help us keep our heads above water. We need to hear words that will bring us back from the brink of depression so that we can have a new outlook on life. When faced with some of life's difficulties it can be hard to focus on anything else. Sometimes it seems as if the only thing you are forced to concentrate on is the tough times that you are facing. However, it is during these times that we need to stay positive and focus on words of motivation, inspiration and empowerment. This is where the reassuring power of words comes into play.
There is a lot of power in the spoken word. It can move us to do the things that we need to do, but it can also scare us from taking action. If you read something that doesn't gel with your spirit it is OK to seek guidance elsewhere and receive something that connects to you. Friends can be well-meaning in giving you advice and who also have your best interest at heart, but it may not what you need to hear at that time. Never think that you have one avenue to get motivated, inspired and empowered.
To be honest the shock value of the words my friend on the phone had given me did scare me enough to shock back life into me. When I was given a realistic view of what may happen it did spur me to action and it also helped me to adjust my mental state. Instead of giving in to worry and fear, I began becoming more proactive in checking out other avenues that may be of help to me. So although words can have a shock value to it, they do not have to create a state of fear. The words may just be what you needed to hear in order to jump-start you to get back into action and not give in to fear and worry.
The Shock Value of Words Vs Reassuring Power of Words Shock Me Like
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